“I feel dirty after prayer” July 26, 2006Posted by Mujahid Mustaqim in Advice, Islam, Responses.
Someone wrote to the StraightWay Foundation with the following problem:
I don’t perform jummah anymore because of the teachings especially when it comes to gays. It is said to be one big sin and dirt and I always feel dirty after jummah please help.
Here is what I replied:
It is important to strengthen your faith in Islam, which means “achieving peace through submission (to Allah)”. Whatever Allah has decreed for us is best for us in this life and the Hereafter. The example of His Prophet (peace be upon him) is the sure path to His pleasure and reward.
Islam does not have teachings about “gays” – what do you mean by this word? If you mean what Islam says about people with same-sex attractions, then let me make clear that Islam does not teach that such people are any less in worth or in their potential to be close to God. The same-sex attractions (SSA) are merely a test in this life – however difficult, we know that this test is not too much to bear (see Qur’an 2:286).
However, Islam also teaches clearly that any sexual relations outside of marriage – and any sexual acts between two men or two women – are forbidden. Whoever feels tempted to commit such acts must restrain himself and seek refuge in Allah, who is the Most Merciful. If someone commits such sins, he or she should repent to Him in all sincerity, hoping for His vast forgiveness, and resolving to be more strong in the future.
Whatever difficulties you are going through, it is not advisable or acceptable to give up on the obligations of the religion. These are the things that will give you stability and open up the doors of guidance and mercy from the Almighty.
It is not the Jumuah prayer that should make you feel dirty. It is sin that stains us, and from which we must purify ourselves. The acts of worship are the means to this. Like the Prophet (peace be on him) taught, performing the ordained prayers is like taking a bath in a clear stream five times a day: just as the stream removes the physical dirt, the prayers clean us from the sins that we all commit.