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“Former Homosexual Wanting To Embrace Islam” June 14, 2006

Posted by Rasheed Eldin in Advice, Islam, Responses.
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Salaam Alaykum,

I have been studying Islam.

I have been reading Maulana Muhammed Ali's translation of the Holy Qur'an and have been discovering the greatness and beauty of the prophet Muhammed, peace and blessings be upon him, by reading Safi-ur-Rahman al-Mubarakpuri's "Ar-Raheeq Al-Makhtum" (The Sealed Nectar).

I was raised in a home that did not fear Allah and have been a part of a society where deprviation [[depravation/deviation? – ed]] has become normal. As such, I regret terribly some of my past actions. In my early twenties, I had a homosexual encounter. By the grace and mercy of Allah, I am free from disease as a result of this encounter. After the incident, I fell into a great depression which lasted for more than a year. The depression was a result of my conscious being so incredibly distraught over this action. My research into Islam has been hindered because I have felt that perhaps Allah would not accept me because of this major transgression. I was not a Muslim at the time, and in fact, knew very little about Islam then.

I no longer participate in any of those dreadful acts and am committed to living a life of purity in the sight of Allah. Nevertheless, as I have been researching Islam, I have read the severe penalty for such a sin. Often death is mentioned.

I know this is a very personal question, and that this is ultimately between me and Allah. However, it has been such a stumbling block that I have avoided making Shahadah and becoming a Muslim. Even this was a very brief encounter at one time and many years ago, I am still plagued by the memory of it.

I strongly desire to become a Muslim, to make Salat, and to live a life in obedience to Allah and the Sunnah. I no longer participate in devious sexual sin, and hope that Allah would favor me enough to allow me to enter into Islam.

Is it possible? Thank you for your advice.

Dear brother, wa 'alaikum as-salam. 

Absolutely yes, it's possible. You don't need to worry about any punishment for sins committed before embracing Islam, neither in this life nor in the Hereafter. Seize the day, declare your testimony of faith and thank Allah for His bounties.

Ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illa-Llah wa ash-hadu anna Muhammadan rasoolullah.

"I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and I testify that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah."

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1. Taleb - June 14, 2006

My dear brother…You needn’t worry at all! When someone becomes Muslim, it is as though he has been reborn because all of his past sinds are erased. Furthermore, Allah is Merciful to those that repent, and from your statements it certainly seems that you have. My dear brother, Allah has guided you to his path and took you from darkness to light. It is a huge step to take for someone to realize that homosexual acts are deviant…alhamdulillah! I have this strong wish to speak with you esepcially as someone who deals with these feelings of SSA and it would be a priveledge for me to be a witness to your shahadah.
Allahu akbar.
Ash hadu an laa ilaha illa llah, wa ash hadu anna Muhammadan rasoolu llah.

2. sister Hajra - November 9, 2006

assalamu alaikum brother, may i wish you a happy, Muslim life and I’m completely amazed by the grace of Allah Almughty arn’t you? Alhamdulillah He has given you another chance, Alhamdulillah. This is great also because i was just about to do this English assignment in which i was to discuss homosexuals….whom i have absolute hatred for. and this is just brilliant because it will make my article even more interesting and inviting to people just like you. MashAllah, if i ever met you in person brother i dont know how’d happy i’d be! May your life be as pleasant and happy as it is now, being welcomed and embracing Islam. Assalam alaikum warahmatullah

3. Dr Scott - May 5, 2007

I am very familiar with the ex-gay life in Christianity and it is interesting to see the parallel between Christian and Muslim theology in this subject matter. I am saddened though by the hatred that is expressed for homosexuals and quite possibly is the feeling that led to attacks such as 911. I would hope that if your Allah had enough grace for someone in a homosexual lifestyle to change and be accepted into Islam then I would only hope that Allah’s people would be able to hold out grace that are in such a place instead of hatred until they turned. If Allah hated this individual for his sin then why would he have grace on him even if he repented? So it is with a followe of Allah. Offer enough grace to homosexuals to allow them to make an informed decision and be content with their decision. Allow Allah to be the judge, not yourselves.

4. Rasheed Eldin - May 5, 2007

Dr Scott, we do not express the least bit of hatred for “homosexuals”, if you mean people who have same-sex attractions. As for people who actually commit sinful deeds on that basis, even for them we do not hold hatred, as all of us commit sins and what is needed is advice and exhortation for people to repent and change their ways.

The only place that hatred might come into our discourse is with those few people who are deliberately misleading others and guiding them towards sin and God’s displeasure. And yet even with those, we put most emphasis on answering them intellectually.

I’m trying to fathom your point about 9/11. If you’re suggesting that hatred is something inherent to Islam, then you are mistaken. The overriding principle in Islam is mercy. This article discusses it well:
http://www.nawawi.org/downloads/article1.pdf

Dr Scott, if you read more from the site, you will understand better just what it is we’re saying. We don’t believe that we are “the judges”, but we also don’t accept the pseudo-theological argument that forbidding what is evil (and already declared evil by God) is somehow defunct because ultimately God is the Judge! Rather, forbidding the wrong is an indispensible duty of all Muslims to whatever extent is appropriate for them.

5. Sis. Hajra - June 1, 2007

Dr Scott, i guess u were referring to me when u pointed out the hatred part. everyone has a freedom of speech especially going against something which is morally, ethically and religiously (including Christianity and Judaism teachings) wrong- homosexuality. DR, you do have a point here and i agree “If Allah hated this individual for his sin then why would he have grace on him even if he repented?” …sir, Allah had grace on Him when he figured his doings (homosexual life) were totally wrong but i didnt mean those people who are questioning the reason for their life, rather I meant those who wrongly claim this form of disobedience to be a part of Islamic teachings. this is totally wrong. if just you could read the story about the people of Lot (peace be upon him) from Islams perspective, then hopefully youd understand the hatred were talking about here.

plus those so-called peace groups calling themselves muslims, and are gay are implying and saying there is nothing wrong in being gay and muslim. this is whom i have hatred for, and who all the Muslims also have hatred for. (well those Muslims who realise the wrong in homosexuality anyway…)

Ma’asalama

6. sanaa - September 27, 2007

assalamo 3alaikom dear brother, am very happy for u that u decided to change u r life and begin a new one of ALLAH’s obedeince. u can of course be a muslim and actually u r as u beleive that ALLAH is one god and that no one deserve to be worshiped except Him , so take the necessary step and declared u r faith brother .its really delightful that u want to live a pure life and u should know that when someone embrace islam all his sins are forgiven so tawakal 3ala ALLAH and live u r life in peace and happines.

7. Raf - April 29, 2008

Asalaam Alaikum

You have seen the wrong in what you did in ignorance and found the path of wisdom. This is a mercy on you from Allah swt so that you may eradicate your past mistakes and become of the faithful, giving you a chance to set things right and use this life the right way. Your fear of Allah swt shows that your heart has already declared what your mouth hasn’t! Seek solace in your prayers and may you always be of the righteous. Every believing brother and sister in the world is here for you.

8. Anis Kotia - August 25, 2008

Brother, I don’t know if you still visit this website at all but I am very intrigued at how you now feel about homosexuality.

Alhamdulillah, you are now Muslim…but brother, why is it that so many people declare that they are gay by birth? I always did (and still do) think it is impossible to be born homosexual and therefore the reason for people being homosexual are other reasons such as a bad upbringing etc.. What are your thoughts on the matter?

9. Qusai - September 4, 2008

Salam Anis,

Ramadan Mubarak.
I know your post was not addressed to me but I think it would be fair to back up your claim that it is impossible for people to be born homosexual. The process of foetal development is neither flawless nor predictable. There are many children born with defective natural mechanisms e.g colour blindness, dyslexia, attention deficit.

Some are born with a propensity for psychological disturbances including bipolar affect and confused gender identity. What is it about sexual orientation, as yet another aspect of human behaviour, that makes it especially immune to natural flaws and deviations that made you decide that it is impossible for it to be corrupted naturally?

Peace
Qusai

10. Anis Kotia - February 16, 2009

Brother Qusai,

Salaam. Please tell me more. I’m not convinced: by saying what you just did, you must therefore assume that the people of Lut (peace be upon him) were to a great extent born with this defect. If not all, then a fair few of them because all of the inhabitants of his city were actively involved in homosexual acts in order for them to be destroyed by Allaah. What is your view on that?

If we are to accept that people are born homosexual then we must accept that this is written from Allaah to be in that person’s personality and therefore, Allaah expects them to fight these urges all their life in order to attain a good standing in the Hereafter. We could also extrapolate from this that certain people who are born with such a strong case of this defect (as you say) that they never feel attraction to women, may never find happiness in marriage, thus meaning that they may end up living lonely lives.

What are your thoughts?

Anis.

11. Lubna Khan - August 23, 2009

Salam Brothers & Sisters

I was reading a discussion today on a very nice positive website & I wonder what kind of people are in this world?

Why do some feel they are more than The Almighty, A question was asked Can a muslim be a Homosexual? The site creator and her husband answered the question simply NO and the reason why. How the other Non Muslims answered showed how they are lost in this world. When will they stop their foolish thinking and see that The only way is Islam. It seems so many non believers follow the belief that “They are Born Homosexual Muslims”.

Can A Muslim be a Homosexual?

12. naveed ahmed - August 23, 2013

homosexuality is sin. peoples of Hazrat Loot A.S was destoyed due to this sin, then how can u say that there is a guidance in quran for homosexuality? u r misguiding people.


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